Where there’s a WILL, there’s a WAY!

One of the exercises in our Beyond Freedom Evolution Quickstart course this past week was about your Compass Heading – 2 or 3 words you live by. The lesson mentioned about being honest and true and choosing what would be in alignment with your purpose and help you go in the direction of your North Star.  This has been on my mind this week.

Another truth that I often think about is: What you teach is often what you need to learn yourself.  Do you find this true for you too?  I have so often found words coming out of my mouth to help a friend or family member that resonate so much with me and I realize that what I just said is the answer to a problem I’m facing, or a solution to something that is holding me back.

Tonight I was writing a message to a friend and shared a well known saying I have spoken many, many times over the years:  Where there is a will, there is a Way.  The moment I sent the message I realized that this was my new compass heading, Where there is a will – I need to work more on my will, my desire, my WHY.  I know my why for creating success in my life: to provide a great life for my husband and I.  But somehow I need more than just that.  I need to focus on a reason that ignites a fire within me, not just a longing for something more.  It’s time to dig even deeper to find what I’m truly passionate about, what excites and drives me, what makes me want to get out of bed every morning and work on my dreams.  For so many years I laboured under a false belief that somehow it was wrong to put myself first, or that trying to find my own happiness was somehow selfish.

I can see this is going to take some journaling to dig beneath the surface on this one, but it’s an exciting journey!  Time for me to finish this sentence: What I really want is…..

For the first time in my life I can say – I LOVE MY LIFE!

When I embarked on my journey with Polaris Global and Beyond Freedom Evolution I had no idea what this would mean for me and my life.  I didn’t realise just what emotions would come to the surface and what skeletons lurking in my closet would be dragged out and aired for me to view and deal with.  But like any good spring clean, dragging all the junk out of a cupboard gives you a chance to cull, clear out and create space for so much more.

I have come through so much in my life – as a child being abused & bullied, as a teenager being teased, bullied, discouraged from trying to achieve anything and as an adult being overlooked for every position I ever tried to go for when attempting to climb the corporate ladder.  And that is just scratching the surface of how things were for me. As a result I allowed myself to have a victim mentality – that all of this was somehow everyone else’s fault, and I had no control over any of it.  I was a mess!

Looking back on the kind of person I was, I feel sad for her.  I was depressed, I was angry, I was so negative.  No-one wanted to be around me, so I had very few friends and those friends I had attracted to me were not very genuine friends. I seriously craved human interaction and love.  I wanted to be in a loving relationship, but was never able to attract this into my life. I was a door-mat that was more focused on trying to please others than on trying to make myself happy. All of these things were leading me in a downward spiral of self-loathing and depression.  I was a broken human being.

Throughout my 20’s I had been helping my Mum care for my disabled Father, but when Dad passed away I made a huge life-changing decision to move interstate and away from my family, friends and everyone or everything that I knew.  This created enough distance from my past to start working on a different future for myself.  This led to the start of an upward spiral in my life and things started to change.  It was then I met my husband.  Not long after this when I was retrenched I discovered Polaris and my Beyond Freedom Evolution journey, which was about to completely change my life began.

The lessons I have learned about decision making and taking control of being the positive change in my life have been invaluable.  I now know that I have the power of choice. I can choose to be the happy, positive and vibrant person that I am finding myself being these days.  I no longer see a dark gloomy future full of ‘sameness’ but a bright fun future of exciting possibility just waiting for me to go and get it.

I am now attracting positive, on purpose people into my life who have become very good friends of mine.  I have come so far, but I still have many challenges ahead of me.  My journey is only just beginning and I’m excited about where I am heading.  Always the student, I am learning so much every single day – about myself and about how to create exactly what I desire in life.  I am forever grateful for because for the first time in my life I can now say I LOVE MY LIFE!