MINDSET OVER MATTER

Recently I’ve been addressing a long-standing issue in my life and that is about health and weight loss. I felt it was holding me back in so many areas of my life – how much energy I had, how I moved, how effective I was in my business.

It was time.

I am really proud to say that I have lost almost 7kg now and lost over 60cm’s of body fat, increased my energy levels and am feeling so much more alert, moving much better and am just loving my life. I have a long way to go to achieve my big goals, but you know, I’m excited because I know I’m on purpose and working hard to get there.

For me, weight loss has been about so much more than nutrition and fitness, although these have been absolutely key elements to my success so far. I am participating in a weight loss program and have an amazing health coach who has become such a good friend and I am blessed to have her in my life.

But I have found that much of my journey has been about the 6 inches between my ears – my mindset!

I have come through many challenges in my life and had many self-beliefs that were holding me back – some of them I was barely aware I was even thinking this way. Several years ago I discovered Polaris Global and our Beyond Freedom Evolution program that I am so proud to now assist others with in my business. It has been a key element to my success and happiness in life. It has absolutely changed who I am, how I approach life and definitely helped lift me out of a rut that would have ultimately led to an early death for me. No to be too dramatic, but yes it has saved my life.

I was a very negative person once, suffering from depression, never achieving anything much, wishing and wanting for more, but never seeming to get ahead. I applied for promotions only to be knocked back time after time. I desperately wanted to find someone to share my life with, but was not being the kind of person that anyone really would want to be around. I was miserable and really didn’t want to live anymore.

Now I am so happy in my life. No, it is not perfect. No, I don’t have everything I want..yet! But, you know what? I’m on the road. BFE has taught me so much about taking back control of my life and living my life on purpose. I’m now actively working on my goals and dreams, not just wishing my life were better. I am now happily married and am excited to be planning our life and what we want to achieve. So, taking care of my health has become even more important to me – to be here for a long long time to enjoy more of life with my husband.

We had an amazing training call this morning discussing a section of our Beyond Freedom Evolution curriculum which discussed compulsive behaviour. It really resonated with me on so many levels, but I could not stop thinking about how this related to how I used to compulsively eat food. When you eat food compulsively you are trying to fill a need, or a desire, but in such a superficial way. With each mouthful you gain a sense of satisfaction or fulfillment…but it ends when you swallow. So, you take another mouthful, and then another, and before you know it you’ve eaten your whole daily calorie intake (or more) in one sitting. And when you’ve finished you are left with a hollow feeling – not in your belly, but in the deepest part of your soul, because you didn’t fill the real need/desire/longing you are searching for.

There is so much to be learned from this – about taking control of our lives and learning to fill the real need we have with something that will satisfy us long-term, not just in the moment and then we are filled with regret. Mindset and living life at cause instead of at effect has been one of the biggest changes to my life from doing personal development and working through our BFE program, and I will be forever grateful for how it has affected me.

So, my journey is not over…it is only just beginning. Stay tuned for my next installment!

Mindset over Matter

Recently I've been addressing a long-standing issue in my life and that is about health and weight loss.  I felt it was holding me back in so many areas of my life - how much energy I had, how I moved, how effective I was in my business.  It was time.

Finishing Run Ballarat 2013

I am really proud to say that I have lost almost 7kg now and lost over 60cm's of body fat, increased my energy levels and am feeling so much more alert, moving much better and am just loving my life.  I have a long way to go to achieve my big goals, but you know, I'm excited because I know I'm on purpose and working hard to get there.


For me, weight loss has been about so much more than nutrition and fitness, although these have been absolutely key elements to my success so far. I am participating in a weight loss program and have an amazing health coach who has become such a good friend and I am blessed to have her in my life.
But I have found that much of my journey has been about the 6 inches between my ears - my mindset!

I have come through many challenges in my life and had many self-beliefs that were holding me back - some of them I was barely aware I was even thinking this way.  Several years ago I discovered the personal empowerment and leadership development program that I am so proud to now assist others with in my business.  It has been a key element to my success and happiness in life.  It has absolutely changed who I am, how I approach life and definitely helped lift me out of a rut that would have ultimately led to an early death for me.  No to be too dramatic, but yes it has saved my life.

I was a very negative person once, suffering from depression, never achieving anything much, wishing and wanting for more, but never seeming to get ahead. I applied for promotions only to be knocked back time after time.  I desperately wanted to find someone to share my life with, but was not being the kind of person that anyone really would want to be around.  I was miserable and really didn't want to live anymore.

Now I am so happy in my life.  No, it is not perfect. No, I don't have everything I want..yet! But, you know what?  I'm on the road.  I'm working on my goals and dreams.  I'm living life with a purpose.  I am now happily married and am excited to be planning our life and what we want to achieve.  So, taking care of my health has become even more important to me - to be here for a long long time to enjoy more of life with my husband.

Recently giving a talk to a group of entrepreneurs

We had an amazing training call this morning discussing a section of our personal empowerment program which discussed compulsive behaviour.  It really resonated with me on so many levels, but I could not stop thinking about how this related to how I used to compulsively eat food.  When you eat food compulsively you are trying to fill a need, or a desire, but in such a superficial way.  With each mouthful you gain a sense of satisfaction or fulfillment...but it ends when you swallow.  So, you take another mouthful, and then another, and before you know it you've eaten your whole daily calorie intake (or more) in one sitting. And when you've finished you are left with a hollow feeling - not in your belly, but in the deepest part of your soul, because you didn't fill the real need/desire/longing you are searching for.


There is so much to be learned from this - about taking control of our lives and learning to fill the real need we have with something that will satisfy us long-term, not just in the moment and then we are filled with regret.  Mindset and living life at cause instead of at effect has been one of the biggest changes to my life from doing personal development and I will be forever grateful for how it has affected me.

So, my journey is not over...it is only just beginning.  Stay tuned for my next installment!

Susan Dorrington
Executive Income Specialist
Personal Empowerment & Leadership Development
No Limits Biz

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Where there’s a WILL, there’s a WAY!

One of the exercises in our Beyond Freedom Evolution Quickstart course this past week was about your Compass Heading – 2 or 3 words you live by. The lesson mentioned about being honest and true and choosing what would be in alignment with your purpose and help you go in the direction of your North Star.  This has been on my mind this week.

Another truth that I often think about is: What you teach is often what you need to learn yourself.  Do you find this true for you too?  I have so often found words coming out of my mouth to help a friend or family member that resonate so much with me and I realize that what I just said is the answer to a problem I’m facing, or a solution to something that is holding me back.

Tonight I was writing a message to a friend and shared a well known saying I have spoken many, many times over the years:  Where there is a will, there is a Way.  The moment I sent the message I realized that this was my new compass heading, Where there is a will – I need to work more on my will, my desire, my WHY.  I know my why for creating success in my life: to provide a great life for my husband and I.  But somehow I need more than just that.  I need to focus on a reason that ignites a fire within me, not just a longing for something more.  It’s time to dig even deeper to find what I’m truly passionate about, what excites and drives me, what makes me want to get out of bed every morning and work on my dreams.  For so many years I laboured under a false belief that somehow it was wrong to put myself first, or that trying to find my own happiness was somehow selfish.

I can see this is going to take some journaling to dig beneath the surface on this one, but it’s an exciting journey!  Time for me to finish this sentence: What I really want is…..

For the first time in my life I can say – I LOVE MY LIFE!

When I embarked on my journey with Polaris Global and Beyond Freedom Evolution I had no idea what this would mean for me and my life.  I didn’t realise just what emotions would come to the surface and what skeletons lurking in my closet would be dragged out and aired for me to view and deal with.  But like any good spring clean, dragging all the junk out of a cupboard gives you a chance to cull, clear out and create space for so much more.

I have come through so much in my life – as a child being abused & bullied, as a teenager being teased, bullied, discouraged from trying to achieve anything and as an adult being overlooked for every position I ever tried to go for when attempting to climb the corporate ladder.  And that is just scratching the surface of how things were for me. As a result I allowed myself to have a victim mentality – that all of this was somehow everyone else’s fault, and I had no control over any of it.  I was a mess!

Looking back on the kind of person I was, I feel sad for her.  I was depressed, I was angry, I was so negative.  No-one wanted to be around me, so I had very few friends and those friends I had attracted to me were not very genuine friends. I seriously craved human interaction and love.  I wanted to be in a loving relationship, but was never able to attract this into my life. I was a door-mat that was more focused on trying to please others than on trying to make myself happy. All of these things were leading me in a downward spiral of self-loathing and depression.  I was a broken human being.

Throughout my 20’s I had been helping my Mum care for my disabled Father, but when Dad passed away I made a huge life-changing decision to move interstate and away from my family, friends and everyone or everything that I knew.  This created enough distance from my past to start working on a different future for myself.  This led to the start of an upward spiral in my life and things started to change.  It was then I met my husband.  Not long after this when I was retrenched I discovered Polaris and my Beyond Freedom Evolution journey, which was about to completely change my life began.

The lessons I have learned about decision making and taking control of being the positive change in my life have been invaluable.  I now know that I have the power of choice. I can choose to be the happy, positive and vibrant person that I am finding myself being these days.  I no longer see a dark gloomy future full of ‘sameness’ but a bright fun future of exciting possibility just waiting for me to go and get it.

I am now attracting positive, on purpose people into my life who have become very good friends of mine.  I have come so far, but I still have many challenges ahead of me.  My journey is only just beginning and I’m excited about where I am heading.  Always the student, I am learning so much every single day – about myself and about how to create exactly what I desire in life.  I am forever grateful for because for the first time in my life I can now say I LOVE MY LIFE!

A light goes out of the world

My heartfelt condolences go out to the people of South Africa who today have lost their beloved leader and President Nelson Mandela.

I read a post on facebook today written by author and motivational speaker Les Brown.  My own thoughts echo his sentiments, so I hope he won't mind me re-posting here as I try to find adequate words to express my thoughts on the passing of a man whom I have admired for his strength, grace and forgiveness.

"Mandiba's life was a living example of grace and forgiveness in the face of unspeakable suffering; hard work and sacrifice with dignity; and an uncompromising belief that all people can work together to change conditions of disparity and economic inequality, and can learn to live together in peace.  The legacy of his life and leadership compels us to continue his work to build communities, countries and a world where all people can manifest their GREATNESS, and live their dreams". - Les Brown

I will never forget the impact watching the movie Invictus had upon me - and discovering one small poem by William Ernest Henley that inspired, consoled and encouraged such a great man during such 'unspeakable suffering' he endured while imprisoned.

As a tribute to Mandela, here is that poem. So powerful: I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul.

RIP Nelson Mandela 1918-2013

Invictus

Out of the night that covers me,

Black as the Pit from pole to pole,

I thank whatever gods may be

For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance

I have not winced nor cried aloud.

Under the bludgeonings of chance

My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears

Looms but the Horror of the shade,

And yet the menace of the years

Finds, and shall find, me unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,

How charged with punishments the scroll.

I am the master of my fate:

I am the captain of my soul. 

William Ernest Henley

Susan Dorrington
Executive Income Specialist, M8 Director and
Leadership Development Business Consultant
www.nolimitsbiz.info

Busting the MYTH of Be Do Have

We've all heard it - "Oh if only I had X (eg. money), then I'd do X (travel, buy house/car/goods) and then I'd be X (happy etc.)".    We live our lives believing that we can't BE something (like happy or successful) unless we HAVE something (like money, the best job, the best car etc).  In other words, to BE something and DO something you first must HAVE something.

Well, I'm here to tell you that this is just NOT TRUE!!  Someone lied to us.  We've got it all wrong, upside down, inside out and back the front!

This is a well known fact among my circle of influence, and in the circles of successful business people and entrepreneurs around the world, and one that I want to share with you because it has made a huge difference in my life and I know it can do for you too.

To start with we need to flip this:

You must firstly BE something and DO something before you can HAVE something!

Did that just flick a light switch on in your brain?  I hope so, because that is what it did to me when i first heard it explained this way.  It was like "Ahhhhhh I get it now!"

So how do you BE and DO?

BE-ing doesn't mean that you have to BE the end product, having achieved the result, having 'arrived', but it does mean that you must be on the footpath, on the journey.  It means looking at who do you want to BE. Examine what thoughts, attitudes and actions that person would take....and DO that.

If you put this principle to work in your life, Work harder on yourself than you do on your business, or on pursuing your goals and before you know it you will be achieving those goals and going on to set even bigger brighter grander goals for yourself and your life.

One more thing to say on this topic:  MYTH BUSTED!!!

~Susan Dorrington
Executive Income Specialist & Leadership Development
www.nolimitsbiz.info
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Where do you get your POWER?

It is in quiet solitude I get my energy.

I did a Myers Briggs personality test several years ago and confirmed what I already knew - that I was an introvert.  But the more I read about introverts, the more I realised that this does not mean that I am not social, or that I am afraid of my own shadow let alone other people.  No, not at all.  Part of being an introvert meant that you would get your energy from times spent alone or in quiet solitude.

I am a very social person, and really enjoy the company of others.  I love bouncing things off other people, be that concepts, ideas or even jokes.  I also love spending time with my other half, Michael. We are joined at the hip most of the time.  But I love to have moments when there is no tv, no music, no conversation - just the quiet solitude of being alone - this is where I do my thinking, this is where I refresh from the worries of the world, this is where I re-energise and sort out what's in my head - the good from the bad, and can centre myself and be ready to face the world for another day.

So, where do you get your power?

So, how about power?  Power is slightly different to energy.  Energy is the physical and mental ability to carry on and get something done.  Power is more about where you get your inner motivation from.

I don't have all the answers.  This is still something I am figuring out what is true for me.  But I do know what I have learned from successful business men and women, from inspiring figures in our society, and from anyone achieving their goals:

Motivation comes from doing what you are passionate about.

So, I guess the question is - What Inspires you?  What are you Passionate about?