Where there’s a WILL, there’s a WAY!

One of the exercises in our Beyond Freedom Evolution Quickstart course this past week was about your Compass Heading – 2 or 3 words you live by. The lesson mentioned about being honest and true and choosing what would be in alignment with your purpose and help you go in the direction of your North Star.  This has been on my mind this week.

Another truth that I often think about is: What you teach is often what you need to learn yourself.  Do you find this true for you too?  I have so often found words coming out of my mouth to help a friend or family member that resonate so much with me and I realize that what I just said is the answer to a problem I’m facing, or a solution to something that is holding me back.

Tonight I was writing a message to a friend and shared a well known saying I have spoken many, many times over the years:  Where there is a will, there is a Way.  The moment I sent the message I realized that this was my new compass heading, Where there is a will – I need to work more on my will, my desire, my WHY.  I know my why for creating success in my life: to provide a great life for my husband and I.  But somehow I need more than just that.  I need to focus on a reason that ignites a fire within me, not just a longing for something more.  It’s time to dig even deeper to find what I’m truly passionate about, what excites and drives me, what makes me want to get out of bed every morning and work on my dreams.  For so many years I laboured under a false belief that somehow it was wrong to put myself first, or that trying to find my own happiness was somehow selfish.

I can see this is going to take some journaling to dig beneath the surface on this one, but it’s an exciting journey!  Time for me to finish this sentence: What I really want is…..

For the first time in my life I can say – I LOVE MY LIFE!

When I embarked on my journey with Polaris Global and Beyond Freedom Evolution I had no idea what this would mean for me and my life.  I didn’t realise just what emotions would come to the surface and what skeletons lurking in my closet would be dragged out and aired for me to view and deal with.  But like any good spring clean, dragging all the junk out of a cupboard gives you a chance to cull, clear out and create space for so much more.

I have come through so much in my life – as a child being abused & bullied, as a teenager being teased, bullied, discouraged from trying to achieve anything and as an adult being overlooked for every position I ever tried to go for when attempting to climb the corporate ladder.  And that is just scratching the surface of how things were for me. As a result I allowed myself to have a victim mentality – that all of this was somehow everyone else’s fault, and I had no control over any of it.  I was a mess!

Looking back on the kind of person I was, I feel sad for her.  I was depressed, I was angry, I was so negative.  No-one wanted to be around me, so I had very few friends and those friends I had attracted to me were not very genuine friends. I seriously craved human interaction and love.  I wanted to be in a loving relationship, but was never able to attract this into my life. I was a door-mat that was more focused on trying to please others than on trying to make myself happy. All of these things were leading me in a downward spiral of self-loathing and depression.  I was a broken human being.

Throughout my 20’s I had been helping my Mum care for my disabled Father, but when Dad passed away I made a huge life-changing decision to move interstate and away from my family, friends and everyone or everything that I knew.  This created enough distance from my past to start working on a different future for myself.  This led to the start of an upward spiral in my life and things started to change.  It was then I met my husband.  Not long after this when I was retrenched I discovered Polaris and my Beyond Freedom Evolution journey, which was about to completely change my life began.

The lessons I have learned about decision making and taking control of being the positive change in my life have been invaluable.  I now know that I have the power of choice. I can choose to be the happy, positive and vibrant person that I am finding myself being these days.  I no longer see a dark gloomy future full of ‘sameness’ but a bright fun future of exciting possibility just waiting for me to go and get it.

I am now attracting positive, on purpose people into my life who have become very good friends of mine.  I have come so far, but I still have many challenges ahead of me.  My journey is only just beginning and I’m excited about where I am heading.  Always the student, I am learning so much every single day – about myself and about how to create exactly what I desire in life.  I am forever grateful for because for the first time in my life I can now say I LOVE MY LIFE!

A light goes out of the world

My heartfelt condolences go out to the people of South Africa who today have lost their beloved leader and President Nelson Mandela.

I read a post on facebook today written by author and motivational speaker Les Brown.  My own thoughts echo his sentiments, so I hope he won't mind me re-posting here as I try to find adequate words to express my thoughts on the passing of a man whom I have admired for his strength, grace and forgiveness.

"Mandiba's life was a living example of grace and forgiveness in the face of unspeakable suffering; hard work and sacrifice with dignity; and an uncompromising belief that all people can work together to change conditions of disparity and economic inequality, and can learn to live together in peace.  The legacy of his life and leadership compels us to continue his work to build communities, countries and a world where all people can manifest their GREATNESS, and live their dreams". - Les Brown

I will never forget the impact watching the movie Invictus had upon me - and discovering one small poem by William Ernest Henley that inspired, consoled and encouraged such a great man during such 'unspeakable suffering' he endured while imprisoned.

As a tribute to Mandela, here is that poem. So powerful: I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul.

RIP Nelson Mandela 1918-2013

Invictus

Out of the night that covers me,

Black as the Pit from pole to pole,

I thank whatever gods may be

For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance

I have not winced nor cried aloud.

Under the bludgeonings of chance

My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears

Looms but the Horror of the shade,

And yet the menace of the years

Finds, and shall find, me unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,

How charged with punishments the scroll.

I am the master of my fate:

I am the captain of my soul. 

William Ernest Henley

Susan Dorrington
Executive Income Specialist, M8 Director and
Leadership Development Business Consultant
www.nolimitsbiz.info

Busting the MYTH of Be Do Have

We've all heard it - "Oh if only I had X (eg. money), then I'd do X (travel, buy house/car/goods) and then I'd be X (happy etc.)".    We live our lives believing that we can't BE something (like happy or successful) unless we HAVE something (like money, the best job, the best car etc).  In other words, to BE something and DO something you first must HAVE something.

Well, I'm here to tell you that this is just NOT TRUE!!  Someone lied to us.  We've got it all wrong, upside down, inside out and back the front!

This is a well known fact among my circle of influence, and in the circles of successful business people and entrepreneurs around the world, and one that I want to share with you because it has made a huge difference in my life and I know it can do for you too.

To start with we need to flip this:

You must firstly BE something and DO something before you can HAVE something!

Did that just flick a light switch on in your brain?  I hope so, because that is what it did to me when i first heard it explained this way.  It was like "Ahhhhhh I get it now!"

So how do you BE and DO?

BE-ing doesn't mean that you have to BE the end product, having achieved the result, having 'arrived', but it does mean that you must be on the footpath, on the journey.  It means looking at who do you want to BE. Examine what thoughts, attitudes and actions that person would take....and DO that.

If you put this principle to work in your life, Work harder on yourself than you do on your business, or on pursuing your goals and before you know it you will be achieving those goals and going on to set even bigger brighter grander goals for yourself and your life.

One more thing to say on this topic:  MYTH BUSTED!!!

~Susan Dorrington
Executive Income Specialist & Leadership Development
www.nolimitsbiz.info
www.facebook.com/nolimitsbiz

Where do you get your POWER?

It is in quiet solitude I get my energy.

I did a Myers Briggs personality test several years ago and confirmed what I already knew - that I was an introvert.  But the more I read about introverts, the more I realised that this does not mean that I am not social, or that I am afraid of my own shadow let alone other people.  No, not at all.  Part of being an introvert meant that you would get your energy from times spent alone or in quiet solitude.

I am a very social person, and really enjoy the company of others.  I love bouncing things off other people, be that concepts, ideas or even jokes.  I also love spending time with my other half, Michael. We are joined at the hip most of the time.  But I love to have moments when there is no tv, no music, no conversation - just the quiet solitude of being alone - this is where I do my thinking, this is where I refresh from the worries of the world, this is where I re-energise and sort out what's in my head - the good from the bad, and can centre myself and be ready to face the world for another day.

So, where do you get your power?

So, how about power?  Power is slightly different to energy.  Energy is the physical and mental ability to carry on and get something done.  Power is more about where you get your inner motivation from.

I don't have all the answers.  This is still something I am figuring out what is true for me.  But I do know what I have learned from successful business men and women, from inspiring figures in our society, and from anyone achieving their goals:

Motivation comes from doing what you are passionate about.

So, I guess the question is - What Inspires you?  What are you Passionate about?

Welcome to No Limits Biz

Taking ownership of a new business name is pretty exciting.  Many of you reading this may have known me from my other trading as name of Liberty2Live.  Something with this name wasn't resonating with me.  I took on the name several years ago - picking this to represent having a business that assisted others in having the liberty to live the life the desired.  But most people reading this thought the word 'live' was prounounced in the context of: The band was 'live'.   Well that just doesn't work!  :)

Over the last few years the phrase No Limits has presented itself to me time and again and I really liked that - having a business that has no income cap - unlike a job where you can only earn a salary, this business model means that you have the potential to earn whatever you want - if you are willing to do the work to achieve it.  No cap, no ceiling, no-one else holding you back or saying  you can't - just No Limits!  So, for me, it seemed appropriate to be in my own No Limits Biz (or business).  And now I'm excited that it is my registered business name.

This name is who I am, it's who I want to be, and it's what my business represents.

I have so much to share, and as a friend recently put it succinctly - "I don't want to die with the music still in me".  I hope you enjoy my posts. I also hope you will interact with me, sharing your comments, your thoughts, ideas and wins.  My blog is nothing without YOU.

Thanks for reading.

Susan Dorrington

No Limits Biz